From The Archives: Fidelity

In this episode, we are joined by local performer and Dominatrix Sweet Lilly Bee to talk about the concept of fidelity, self care, and how it can apply to ethical non-monogamy.  She came armed with a massive dictionary, folks — no lie!  See for yourself:


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Other links mentioned on the show:

“Search Inside Yourself: The Unexpected Path to Achieving Success, Happiness (and World Peace)”



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Episode 46: Living In A Triad with Jeff Leavell

For this episode, we are joined by author Jeff Leavell who you may recall we discussed in Episode 23 last season with his article in Vice Magazine about the challenges of living in a triad relationship.  He has graciously agreed to join us via Skype to share with our listeners his perspectives on what it takes to make triad relationships work, his view on polyamory, and the latest developments on his relationships.

Jeff was brutally honest, vulnerable and most importantly, unapologetic about who he is and how he lives his life.  We want to thank him for such an amazing conversation.


Here’s where you can follow Jeff to keep up on his daily life with his triad:

@jeffleavell on Twitter

@leavelljeff on Instagram


Other information mentioned on the show:


Polyamory study from University of Central Oklahoma (Anonymous Survey)


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Episode 23: When Communication Breaks Down

Jennifer gives listeners an update on her dog, Enki (and thanks everyone for their messages of support).  Angela discusses an article on the challenges of living in a triad relationship for the newswire segment.  Today, we are joined by Carey Heartborne who is a private mediator that specializes in Transformative Mediation (and who also happens to be non-mongamous) who brings us the unique perspective of how to view communication when it’s not going well.  It was an amazing conversation.

Here are some other resources mentioned on the show:

Brene Brown’s TED Talk on Shame

Brene Brown’s TED Talk on Vulnerability

Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberg, PhD


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Episode 22: What’s With The Geeky Stereotype?

In this episode, we are joined by our friend James to examine what it is about the notion that people who are polyamorous are considered nerds and geeks.  James brings a factual perspective that really gets both of us thinking.  Angela contributes to the Poly In The Cities Newswire with an article by Scott Adam (author of the Dilbert Cartoon Strip) that explores how the concept of marriage is a poor engineering design.

We have some great listener mail too!

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Episode 21: Dating

In this episode, we are joined again by our friend Matt from the Apropos of Nothing Podcast (you might remember him from episode 9) to come back into the Poly In The Cities sound lab and talk with us about the scary and exhilarating world of dating.

We also have our first installment of our Poly In The Cities newswire, where everyone discusses a recent article (more like an Op Ed) in The Federalist about polyamory.  It’s a frustrating article, but we were able to power through it.

Here’s a link to the Polyamory Weekly’s User Manual Guide that Angela mentions on the show.

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Let’s hear your dating stories!

We are dedicating Episode 21 to the wonderful, amazing, and terrifying world of non-monogamous dating and we’d love to hear from you!  Do you have a funny story to share?  Advice for other listeners?  A question that you’d like us to answer?

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Episode 20: Relationship Structures

In this episode, we are joined by Angela’ s wife “Jessie” as we explore the concepts of relationship structures within polyamory.  The show starts by discussing the recent United States Supreme Court decision that same sex marriage is supported by the constitution and Jennifer talks about Chief Justice Roberts’ written dissent makes an interesting argument for opening the door for legal polyamorous marriages in the future (depending on who you ask).

Angela also points listeners to a really great Secondary Bill of Rights that is a great tool to consider when couples begin down the road of polyamory.  We got lots of listener mail too!


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