Episode 48: Compersion with Jillian Deri

For this episode, we are joined by Jillian Deri, a professor of Gender and Women’s Studies at the University of British Columbia and the author of Love’s Refraction: Jealousy and Compersion in Queer Women’s Polyamorous Relationships.  Jillian joined us via Skype to talk about the concept and practice of compersion, what does it look like in daily practice, and how you can have it in your own life.  This was a very thought provoking conversation!

 

You can direct any questions or comments by leaving a voicemail or text message at (507) 556-7659 or by going to our Contact Us link.

 

 

Other resources mentioned on the show:

 

The Intersection of Race and Polyamory Workshop  present by Kevin Patterson of Poly Role Models coming up in Minneapolis, MN (Jennifer and Angela will be attending!)

 

Creative commons music composed by Kevin Macleod

Episode 45: Poly Breakups with Kathy Labriola

Jennifer and Angela start the episode by discussing the tragedy of the shooting of Philando Castile and the importance to standing up against racial injustice for the non white members of the non-monogamy community.

In this episode, we are joined by Kathy Labriola, poly counselor and author of the Jealousy Workbook and Love in Abundance.  She agreed to join us via Skype to discuss the topic of Poly Breakups and her upcoming book on the same topic.  There is also a really great video where she discussed the same topic recently at a conference that Angela attended earlier this year.

 

You can direct any questions or comments by leaving a voicemail or text message at (507) 556-7659 or by going to our Contact Us link.

Other resources mentioned on the show:

4 Ways White People Can Process Their Emotions Without Bringing The White Tears (Everyday Feminism Article)

Showing Up For Racial Justice

Kerista Communes

 

 

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Episode 44: Buddhism and Polyamory

For this episode, we are joined by scottie hall, creator and facilitator of Dharma Core, a Minneapolis based Queer Meditation Community group that is a part of the Common Ground Meditation Center.  They came to the Poly In The Cities lab to share how the philosophies of Buddhism can compliment polyamory.  It was a very insight dialogue.

Our homegirl, Carise, will be giving her Jealousy workshop again on July 14th!!  If you enjoyed listening to her discuss the topic on Episode 38 and are in the Minneapolis area, be sure to check it out.

Also — LISTENER MAIL!!!

 

You can direct any questions or comments by leaving a voicemail or text message at (507) 556-7659 or by going to our Contact Us link.

 

Other resources mentioned on the show:

Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines for Responsible Open Relationships by Wendy-O Matik

Rewriting The Rules: An Integrative Guide to Love, Sex, and Relationships by Meg Barker

Rilke on Love and Other Difficulties: Translations and Considerations

Against The Stream Meditation Society

Spirit Rock Meditation Center

 

 

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Episode 43: Mono/Poly Relationships with Franklin Veaux

To kick off Season 3, we are joined by Franklin Veaux, author of More Than Two and The Game Changer who joined us here on Poly In The Cities to help us unpack the complexities of the Mono/Poly relationship dynamic.  We also discussed the Relationship Bill of Rights as well as other very important details of how to have successful polyamorous relationships.

You can send comments to our voicemail by calling (507) 556-7659 or by sending us an email by going to our Contact Us link.

Other resources/events mentioned on the show:

 

Local Buddhism and Polyamory discussion panel in Minneapolis

 

 

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Episode 42: A Look Back on Season 2

As Season 2 of Poly In The Cities comes to a close, Jennifer and Angela discuss what it’s been like to work together, their favorite moments, memorable episodes, and their hopes for Season 3.

Jennifer talks about the upcoming #smellslikesoup story collection campaign for a future episode.

The details for our celebration party for Season 3 have been decided!!  Listen in for more details and keep an eye on our social media when we get closer to June 17th!

You can leave us a comment by leaving a voicemail or text message to (507) 556-7659 or by going to our Contact Us link.

 

Other resources mentioned in this episode:

Apropos of Nothing Podcast

Manwhore Podcast

Poly Friendly Therapists from the OpeningUp Website

“The Jealousy Workbook” by Kathy Labriola

“Come As You Are” by Emily Nagoski

 

 

You’ve told us how Poly In The Cities has helped you. Now we need your help to tell others!

Hey there friends!  Jennifer here…..

Can you believe that unless you look specifically for “Poly In The Cities” in iTunes, we don’t come up any other way?!  That’s because we don’t have enough reviews to be considered worthy enough to be mentioned by the system.  I know, I know.  I’m rolling my eyes too…..

Angela and I are continuously humbled by your emails telling us how our show has helped you and we are working very hard to bring you bigger and better episodes for Season 3.  It’s going to be amazing!  We really can’t wait.

But we need to take this time to ask all of YOU for your help.

Please take a few moments to go to iTunes or Stitcher and leave a 5 Star review telling other potential listeners how you feel about Poly In The Cities and how you think it could help other folks who either new to non-monogamy or for folks who have been with the community for a long time.

Leave your review for iTunes here.

Leave your review for Stitcher here.

If you can’t do either, no worries!  You are still the best listeners that two podcasters can ever ask for.  You can still tell other people about us by word of mouth or by helping others subscribe to us on their smart phones (we’ve heard that that was a thing!)

 

Eat the fucking cake,

 

Jennifer

Episode 39: “We Need To Talk…”

For this episode, we are joined again by Shawny, a local sex educator and friend of Poly in the Cities (who you remember from our episode on abuse in kink) who has returned to our studio to join Angela in sharing their workshop on disclosure.  This discussion is really helpful for everyone who is facing a difficult decision of disclosing something very personal (like being non-monogamous, for example) to someone very close to them.  Give this one a listen.  You’ll learn a lot!

Here is the run through for BRAINN as described by Angela and Shawny:

B – What are the Benefits?

R – What are the Risks?

A – What is an Alternative?

I – What does your Intuition say?

N– What if you do Nothing?

N– What do you do Next?

You can send any questions or comments by leaving a voicemail or text message at (507) 556-7659 or by going to our Contact Us link.