Episode 39: “We Need To Talk…”

For this episode, we are joined again by Shawny, a local sex educator and friend of Poly in the Cities (who you remember from our episode on abuse in kink) who has returned to our studio to join Angela in sharing their workshop on disclosure.  This discussion is really helpful for everyone who is facing a difficult decision of disclosing something very personal (like being non-monogamous, for example) to someone very close to them.  Give this one a listen.  You’ll learn a lot!

Here is the run through for BRAINN as described by Angela and Shawny:

B – What are the Benefits?

R – What are the Risks?

A – What is an Alternative?

I – What does your Intuition say?

N– What if you do Nothing?

N– What do you do Next?

You can send any questions or comments by leaving a voicemail or text message at (507) 556-7659 or by going to our Contact Us link.

Episode 38: Un-Learning Jealousy

We are joined by local sex and relationship therapist, Carise Rotach-Beard, who came to the Poly In The Cities lab to share with our listeners her recent workshop on jealousy.  She brought her amazing blend of intelligence and f-bombs to schools us all on the topic and how to navigate this very complex emotion.  It’s a really great listen.

Also…..listener mail!!

You can direct any questions by leaving a voicemail or text message by dialing (507) 556-7659 or by going to our Contact Us link.


Other Resources mentioned on the show:

Irene Greene’s Relationship Workshop for Queer, Poly and Kink

Desire Mapping with Jaime Grant free workshop at the Smitten Kitten

Desire Mapping with Jaime Grant (extended) workshop at the University of Minnesota

“Fuck Yes or No” article about dating

Susan Johnson’s “Hold Me Tight”

Esther Perel’s “Mating In Captivity”

Brene Brown video about Blame

Episode 37: Real Talk About STI’s

In this episode, we are joined by our two friends — Lindsey, a sex educator from the Family Tree Clinic and Laura Rademacher of Sky Hill Therapy (you folks remember her from Episode 29, right?).  Our two awesome friends came onto the show to talk about STI’s, what really happens when you ask to get tested, what to do when you get the results, and what all of this means in the world of non-monogamy.

Comments or questions can be sent to us by either going to our Contact Us link or by shooting us a text message or leaving us a voicemail at (507) 556-7659.

Other links mentioned on the show:

OKCupid Chrome Browser Extension

American Sexual Health Association STI Resource Page

ASHA Herpes Resources Page

Smart Sex Resource STI Super Chart Page

Minnesota Department of Health Sponsored – SexualHealthMN.org — (includes links for online chats, texts and phone calls)



Episode 35: Making The Choice To Be Monogamous

Angela and Jennifer start the episode with an update to Angela’s trip to California for her first presentation on disclosure.  Jennifer starts a listener challenge (our listeners are now called “City-ites”, by the way!) called #smellslikesoup for our social media pages.  Did you know that we have a Facebook page and a Twitter account?

For this episode, we are joined in the PITC lab by long time listener and supporter, “Optimus Prime” who came to share his story about how he made the choice to be monogamous after years of living a polyamorous lifestyle.

You can leave us a text or voicemail at (507) 556-7659 or you can drop us a note by going to our Contact Us link.


Episode 34: Designer Relationships

In this episode, we are joined by Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson, the authors of the new book, Designer Relationships.  We have an amazing conversation where they share with us their perspective about relationships, non-monogamy, and even themselves.  You will really enjoy what they had to say and we encourage you to buy their book to find out more!

You can send us your comments or questions by calling our voicemail at (507) 556-7659 or by going to our Contact Us link.

Here is the link to the “Un-Learning Jealousy in Ethical Non-Monogamy” event that we referenced at the top of the show.

We also talked a bit about eye gazing and Angela referenced performance artist Marina Abramovic’s exhibit in which she did such an exercise with members of the public at large and ended up across the table from a former lover that she hadn’t seen in over 20 years.  To illustrate the power that eye gazing can bring to two people, we want to show you the video of that exchange:

Episode 33: I am a Poly Sex Worker

Jennifer starts with opening it as “Episode 34” when it’s really Episode 33.  Sorry about that folks.  She explains that she’s super tired from a work project.  Brain farts happen to the best of us.

We are joined today in the Poly in the Cities lab by Bee, who describes herself as a muse, mama, mystic, activist, and a full service sex worker with a background of over a decade in reproductive health.  She shares some really great perspective about the sex worker trade, her personal experiences, and how that interacts for her in non monogamy.  Bee has also asked us to remind everyone that sex is right up there on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs with Food, Breathing and Homeostasis, so as she puts it, “screw someone today!”.

You can leave us a voicemail or text message by calling (507) 556-7659 or you can send us a message directly by going to our Contact Us link.

Many thanks to Optimus Prime for donating the new computer to the project.  Jennifer is working out the bugs to improve the sound quality.  You rock, dude!!

Links mentioned on the show:

Scarlet Road

Episode 27: Dr. Elisabeth Sheff and Stories from the Polycule

In this episode, we got to spend an hour talking with renowned polyamory researcher, Dr. Elisabeth Sheff about her new book Stories From The Polycule.  We also talked about parenting within the context of polyamory and how to come out to your children.  It was a fascinating conversation and we hope that you enjoy listening to what she has to say.

You can leave us a voicemail or send us a text message about this episode or others at (507)556-7659.