Episode 48: Compersion with Jillian Deri

For this episode, we are joined by Jillian Deri, a professor of Gender and Women’s Studies at the University of British Columbia and the author of Love’s Refraction: Jealousy and Compersion in Queer Women’s Polyamorous Relationships.  Jillian joined us via Skype to talk about the concept and practice of compersion, what does it look like in daily practice, and how you can have it in your own life.  This was a very thought provoking conversation!

 

You can direct any questions or comments by leaving a voicemail or text message at (507) 556-7659 or by going to our Contact Us link.

 

 

Other resources mentioned on the show:

 

The Intersection of Race and Polyamory Workshop  present by Kevin Patterson of Poly Role Models coming up in Minneapolis, MN (Jennifer and Angela will be attending!)

 

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Episode 47: Polyamory Podcasting with Cunning Minx

In this episode, we are joined by Cunning Minx, the host of the Polyamory Weekly, the longest polyamory podcast on the internet.  She joined us via Skype to share with us her experiences of what it is like to run such a successful podcast, some of her favorite guests, and her thoughts about the landscape of polyamory.  It was an awesome chat.  There’s even a fun twist at the end were you hear how we contribute to a potential future guest on her show!

 

Other information mentioned on the show:

RTFM: The User Manual

The Rope Cast

Pedestrian Polyamory Podcast

Mistress Matisse

The Twisted Monk

Reid Mihalko

Catalyst Con

Franklin Veaux

 

You can direct any questions or comments by leaving a voicemail or text message at (507) 556-7659 or by going to our Contact Us link.

 

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Episode 46: Living In A Triad with Jeff Leavell

For this episode, we are joined by author Jeff Leavell who you may recall we discussed in Episode 23 last season with his article in Vice Magazine about the challenges of living in a triad relationship.  He has graciously agreed to join us via Skype to share with our listeners his perspectives on what it takes to make triad relationships work, his view on polyamory, and the latest developments on his relationships.

Jeff was brutally honest, vulnerable and most importantly, unapologetic about who he is and how he lives his life.  We want to thank him for such an amazing conversation.

 

Here’s where you can follow Jeff to keep up on his daily life with his triad:

@jeffleavell on Twitter

@leavelljeff on Instagram

 

Other information mentioned on the show:

 

Polyamory study from University of Central Oklahoma (Anonymous Survey)

 

You can direct any questions or comments by leaving a voicemail or text message at (507) 556-7659 or by going to our Contact Us link.

 

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Episode 45: Poly Breakups with Kathy Labriola

Jennifer and Angela start the episode by discussing the tragedy of the shooting of Philando Castile and the importance to standing up against racial injustice for the non white members of the non-monogamy community.

In this episode, we are joined by Kathy Labriola, poly counselor and author of the Jealousy Workbook and Love in Abundance.  She agreed to join us via Skype to discuss the topic of Poly Breakups and her upcoming book on the same topic.  There is also a really great video where she discussed the same topic recently at a conference that Angela attended earlier this year.

 

You can direct any questions or comments by leaving a voicemail or text message at (507) 556-7659 or by going to our Contact Us link.

Other resources mentioned on the show:

4 Ways White People Can Process Their Emotions Without Bringing The White Tears (Everyday Feminism Article)

Showing Up For Racial Justice

Kerista Communes

 

 

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Episode 43: Mono/Poly Relationships with Franklin Veaux

To kick off Season 3, we are joined by Franklin Veaux, author of More Than Two and The Game Changer who joined us here on Poly In The Cities to help us unpack the complexities of the Mono/Poly relationship dynamic.  We also discussed the Relationship Bill of Rights as well as other very important details of how to have successful polyamorous relationships.

You can send comments to our voicemail by calling (507) 556-7659 or by sending us an email by going to our Contact Us link.

Other resources/events mentioned on the show:

 

Local Buddhism and Polyamory discussion panel in Minneapolis

 

 

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Episode 39: “We Need To Talk…”

For this episode, we are joined again by Shawny, a local sex educator and friend of Poly in the Cities (who you remember from our episode on abuse in kink) who has returned to our studio to join Angela in sharing their workshop on disclosure.  This discussion is really helpful for everyone who is facing a difficult decision of disclosing something very personal (like being non-monogamous, for example) to someone very close to them.  Give this one a listen.  You’ll learn a lot!

Here is the run through for BRAINN as described by Angela and Shawny:

B – What are the Benefits?

R – What are the Risks?

A – What is an Alternative?

I – What does your Intuition say?

N– What if you do Nothing?

N– What do you do Next?

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Episode 38: Un-Learning Jealousy

We are joined by local sex and relationship therapist, Carise Rotach-Beard, who came to the Poly In The Cities lab to share with our listeners her recent workshop on jealousy.  She brought her amazing blend of intelligence and f-bombs to schools us all on the topic and how to navigate this very complex emotion.  It’s a really great listen.

Also…..listener mail!!

You can direct any questions by leaving a voicemail or text message by dialing (507) 556-7659 or by going to our Contact Us link.

 

Other Resources mentioned on the show:

Irene Greene’s Relationship Workshop for Queer, Poly and Kink

Desire Mapping with Jaime Grant free workshop at the Smitten Kitten

Desire Mapping with Jaime Grant (extended) workshop at the University of Minnesota

“Fuck Yes or No” article about dating

Susan Johnson’s “Hold Me Tight”

Esther Perel’s “Mating In Captivity”

Brene Brown video about Blame